An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories

Few things frustrate me more as a dad than defiance from my fourteen-year-old son when I tell him to do something and he either ignores me or flat out refuses to comply. It makes my blood boil and all I want to do is fly into a rage. After all, this is: my house he's … Continue reading An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories

Guest Post: Train Up a Child, by Scott DeLoach

Let’s start with full disclosure: I am not a foster dad. But I am a foster grandpa turned adoptive grandpa and a transracial adoptive dad, as well as a biological dad and a biological grandpa. Four kids came into our house through birth, and one through adoption. Two of my kids have ADHD, one has … Continue reading Guest Post: Train Up a Child, by Scott DeLoach

Embracing the Tension of Adoption

Today is National Adoption Day, and, since I am an adoptive dad, it seemed appropriate for me to write today’s article. But as I considered my angle, I was torn between the desire to talk up how beautiful adoption is and the responsibility to acknowledge how heartbreaking adoption is as well. There is an inherent, … Continue reading Embracing the Tension of Adoption

Emergency Care: A Short-Term Way to Make a Big Difference

Today’s thoughts are dedicated to my parents, who likely didn’t get much sleep until perhaps I was a teenager.  And have made it known that I'm getting what I deserve when one of my kids keeps me up! Warning: This article will end up being a little PG-13, but please forgive me for that--I’m only … Continue reading Emergency Care: A Short-Term Way to Make a Big Difference

Be the Adult You Want Your Child to Become

I love to read inspiring and perspective-altering quotes from wise people, particularly when the words are overlaid on an image of a mountain or a forest, but oftentimes the truth in those statements can be inconvenient. Recently, I read three such inconvenient quotes all on the same day, and none of them were coupled with … Continue reading Be the Adult You Want Your Child to Become

8 Habits That Make Me A Better Dad

I don't know about you, but I learned a lot about myself when I became a dad. Unfortunately, most of what I learned is that I'm not as good or strong a man as I thought I was. This isn't to say that I discovered I'm some horrible monster because I didn't. Rather, fatherhood uncovered … Continue reading 8 Habits That Make Me A Better Dad

Real Dad, Schmeal Dad; Here’s the Deal, Dad

One day a few months ago, my wife, my then-thirteen-year-old son, and I were in the waiting room of the one dentist office in town that takes the state insurance provided for foster kids. My son, per usual, was all over me, vacillating between aggressive hugs and affectionate bites, which simultaneously billowed my heart with … Continue reading Real Dad, Schmeal Dad; Here’s the Deal, Dad