If you care for children in any capacity, you’ve probably experienced that feeling of such intense frustration that you want to throw a tantrum yourself. Or maybe it’s just me, but I doubt it. Many, if not most, foster/adoptive parents endure this phenomenon uniquely, as our children often exhibit extreme behaviors resulting from trauma. These … Continue reading Keeping Perspective in Tough Situations
One day a few months ago, my wife, my then-thirteen-year-old son, and I were in the waiting room of the one dentist office in town that takes the state insurance provided for foster kids. My son, per usual, was all over me, vacillating between aggressive hugs and affectionate bites, which simultaneously billowed my heart with … Continue reading Real Dad, Schmeal Dad; Here’s the Deal, Dad
My son joined my family when he was thirteen years old, and thankfully, because this is The Foster Dads, I don't have to explain how that works for once. Since he quite obviously wasn't a baby, I didn't have the conventional means of attaching to him that most parents have with their infant children, meaning … Continue reading Sacred Ground
Self-care is all the rage these days. Everyone is talking about it, but it actually took me awhile to grasp the fact that there’s good reason. As it turns out, taking care of yourself is an integral element of taking care of someone else, just like how flight attendants instruct you to put on your … Continue reading The Foster Dad’s Only God-Ordained Guide to Self-Care
When my wife and I first decided to adopt from foster care, we agreed on a rule for ourselves: we would welcome children of any age, as long as that child wasn’t so old that we couldn’t have biologically been his or her parents. In other words, we wanted an age gap of at least … Continue reading Why you should adopt a teenager!
In February of 2017, an image was relentlessly shared on various social media sites, so much so that People Magazine featured the picture along with an article explaining it. The image featured five beautiful children–ranging in age from eleven to two–sitting side-by-side on a wood bench, three smiling and two looking back at the camera … Continue reading The Story of the Time We Nearly Adopted Five Kids All at Once