Guest Post: I Am Going To by Brett Chabek

I don’t need to step over the baby gate anymore, so I won’t. It’s been taken down.

I don’t need to fumble with the child-proof locks on the cabinets, so I won’t. They’re not there anymore.

I don’t need to check and see if there are any bottles made for tonight, so I won’t. Nobody here looking to drink them.

I don’t need to keep shushing the boys: there’s no one sleeping for them to wake up.

I don’t need to worry if he ate enough today, but I’m going to. I can’t help it.

I don’t need to hope that he has a good night’s sleep tonight, but I am. Old habits die hard.

I don’t need to worry about him being safe. I know that I don’t need to and I know that he’s fine, but I’m going to.

I don’t need to look forward to him greeting me at the door tomorrow when I get home from work, but I’m going to.

…. I am going to. And it’s going to suck all over again when he’s not there to tell me that I’m home.

I am happy for him to be back where he belongs with his family that loves him, and I’m happy for them that they have him.

But for now I will hope and worry, and I’ll look forward to seeing him again. He’s not here anymore, but I will.

For as long as I need to.


Brett Chabek and his wife Pammie have been foster parents with Cuyahoga County in Ohio for eight years. They have fostered five children, and adopted one.

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